I You do not suck because of your golf swing.
Great. I’m already amending my thesis. You do not suck because of your swing. If you have a handicap between 12 and +1. The fact is you don’t suck at all compared to most people who consider themselves golfers let alone those non-golfers who know you play. No, to them you’re already good. It’s only you who thinks you suck and believes that if your swing was better you’d be better.
II Your game will not be helped by a fitting session, no matter how expert.
Your game will not improve because of a new driver, fitted shaft or fresh wedges. Flightscope is not your friend or your savior. It’s a pusher. Avoid being an addict.
III If you have been playing for more than 5-7 years, and you are over 45 years of age, you are probably done improving.
Live with it. Embrace it even. Sorry to burst your bubble but you’re also not going to become a faster runner. Consciousness of limitation is not causal to a limitation on your enjoyment of golf or any pastime.
IV The rare, rare, rare exceptions to point III prove the point.
Feel free to rub my nose in it. Send me stories about all the 45+ year olds you know whose handicaps have dropped from 10 to 5 or 4-2.
I’m waiting.
V Here’s an old relationship rule that applies perfectly to golf.
If you’re in a challenging personal relationship ask yourself this: If nothing gets better, would you still continue with the relationship? The genius of this question is this: If you can hang in there with no improvement, any improvement will make the relationship (and your life) better and more enriching. Imagine how happy you would be about your golf game if you adopted this mindset.
VI The golf industry is not you and you are not the golf industry.
Why does this obvious fact matter? Because it should not matter to you how far the very best players in the world hit the ball or even the equipment they sometimes use but always endorse. Their spin rates shouldn’t matter nor should any other specification of their performance.
VII Last year I attended the Women’s US Am at Bel Air CC.
I overheard no fewer than three men muse about the distances the top four players achieved off the tee.
Each said a variation of, “You know, they’re so smooth and their clubs are totally matched to their games.”
As if…
Finally, loosened by SoCal sunshine and two on-course beers I spoke up.
“That’s totally wrong but you won’t like the truth.”
Incredulous male golf fan: “Oh really, and what’s the truth?”
“The truth is that the four players on the course today are elite athletes. You and I are not.”
VIII You suffer because of denial and a lack of honesty about your golf goals.
Today I asked a good friend who is a superb athlete about his golf goals for the rest of the year and beyond. He spoke of a battle with the course and a battle with himself. I thought to myself; what happens when we are battling ourselves? I think all of us, the yin and yang and the golfer, lose.
IX For the professional and the high-level amateur golf is a battle, with an opponent and the field.
Amateurs should celebrate their general freedom from these battles. They should celebrate the game for the sake of the game. Being outdoors for the simple joy of being outdoors and the fun of spending time with their companions.
To quote Jones, “Golf is a game best enjoyed with the convivial companionship of close friends and loved ones.”
Amen, Emperor Jones.
X Detoxing from golf is unlikely not impossible.
I’ve found my golf detox through another game that (so far) eschews unreasonable expectations, a game that emphasizes playing the game rather than a discrete athletic motion regarded in isolation. You can detox your golf game in a way that will maximize your enjoyment of the game.
The question is, will you?

